You Already Decided You Can't
When was the last time you actually tested what you're capable of?
You walk around with this invisible fence around your life. You know exactly where your limits are. You can recite them on command: "I'm not good with numbers." "I'm not a people person." "I don't do public speaking." "I'm not creative." You've got your boundaries mapped out like gospel truth.
But here's the thing—you never actually tested most of them. You just decided they were true and moved on.
Stop Living in Your Assumptions
That story you tell yourself about what you can and can't do? Most of it is fiction. It's based on one bad experience in third grade, or something your parent said when you were twelve, or a fear you've been nursing for so long you've forgotten it started as a guess.
You're not protecting yourself from failure. You're protecting yourself from discovery. Because what if you tried that thing you're "not good at" and found out you actually are? What if you stepped outside your comfortable little box and realised it was way smaller than it needed to be?
That would mean you've been playing small for no reason. And that's scarier than staying put.
Your Identity Is Not Your Prison
"I'm just not that kind of person." Really? According to whom? Based on what evidence? That version of yourself you're so committed to defending—when did you decide it was final? When did you stop exploring what else might be possible?
You've confused your current reality with your permanent capacity. You've mistaken your comfort zone for your actual limits. But your identity isn't a prison sentence. It's not something that happened to you. It's something you choose, every day, by what you're willing to try.
Test Your Boundaries
Stop assuming. Start testing. Take that thing you're "not good at" and do it badly for a while. See what happens. Try the role you're "not suited for" and discover what you actually think about it. Attempt the project you're "not qualified for" and learn where your real edges are.
Most of your limitations aren't real—they're just untested. And the only way to find out which ones are true is to run straight at them and see what breaks.
You've been living inside a story about yourself that you never fact-checked. Stop accepting your assumptions as truth. Start exploring what you're actually capable of. The boundaries you think define you might be the first things that need to go.